Among the millions you could have married, you chose your particular spouse. You may have married for a variety of reasons. It could have been:
- a love marriage
- an arranged marriage
- a combination of the two
But the FACT is that you are now married. It is said that ‘marriages are made in heaven’, BUT to maintain them is your responsibility. To make your marriage a success requires HARD WORK. It will not happen automatically. You have to make it work ….even in the face of challenges and problems given freely and generously by the world.
Often outwardly a couple may look happy – partying and vacationing …but there is an underlying element of stress and conflict. Marriage should bring to life:
- Joy
- Well-being
- Auspiciousness
ALL three are important. Married life must be:
- Full of joy – not just thrills – cheer and lightness, fun and brightness.
- A sense of ‘well-being’ – being good and well with each other.
- Filled with auspiciousness – a purity and beauty
The secret of a successful marriage is a well-kept secret! Though everyone knows it…it is not widely practiced.
THE MANTRA IS: DISCOVER NEW LOVE AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER AND LET THEM GROW EACH DAY.
Love ‘before marriage’ is common BUT ‘after marriage’ more IMPORTANT. Trust strengthens love. Unobstructed by doubt and mistrust …love matures and grows.
Fed by renewed …feelings of tenderness, care and concern, …love is nourished and blossoms. Love should never become stale nor …its expression be gross, routine or mechanical.
We respect the person we see…what we value in them. The more we value what others have …the more we respect them. THUS… Ever increasing mutual love and respect is the secret of a successful marriage.
by Swami Tejomayananda