Sandals’ Splendor – Glory of Guru Padukas

Gautama Buddha was taking a satsang and as it progressed, there was a devotee who nodded off to sleep.
Buddha: Are you sleeping?
Devotee: No. No. No.
So Buddha continued the satsang. After some time, the person nodded off to sleep again.
Buddha: Are you sleeping?
Devotee: No. No. No.
The devotee sat up straight and tried hard to keep awake. But in a short while, he nodded off for the third time.
Buddha: Are you alive?
Devotee: No, No, No.
Buddha looked at him and said,  “By mistake, you gave the right answer.”
This is a simple anecdote, but makes us think about what makes us alive to this human opportunity, the human birth that we have. Our entire lifetime can pass without us knowing the purpose of our birth. It is only in a human birth that we can realize the Truth. So, the two Padukas symbolize the Truth or Self-Knowledge, which we can realize in our life.
Padukas & Self-Knowledge
One Paduka represents the Truth or Self-Knowledge in which the Master is established, which lies dormant in our hearts and to which we have to awaken. The other Paduka is the symbol of awakening other people. Just as a lit candle, lights up other candles, the Master too has realized the Truth and His life is spent in awakening others.
When we worship the Padukas, we worship the Supreme Truth or Self-Knowledge. This Truth is in our own hearts as Consciousness, which is the All-Pervasive, Omnipotent, Omnipresent, Omniscient Reality, which we also call Ishwara. Even though we are yet to realize the Truth, by worshipping the Padukas we pray that we may wake up and awaken others.
Poojya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda explained the significance of the pada-pooja/paduka pooja in the following ways:
“Just as a Shiva Linga represents Shiva and Shaligrama represents Vishnu, in the same way, the feet of the Teacher represent to the students, not the feet, but the underlying concept.  What we are invoking is Brahman, the Lord.  But we cannot go directly to Him.  We want a symbol.  At this time, there is no symbol more sacred than the feet/Padukas of the teacher. “
Padukas & Humility
Another question that may strike us is How can I realize this Truth? What is required to know it?  Self-Knowledge is the direct means to Know the Truth.  To attain Self-Knowledge, Humility is required.  In the 13th chapter of the Geeta, Bhagawan says – Amaanitvam Adambhitvam Ahimsa Kshantihi Aarjavam – Amaanitvam means humility. Worship of the Paduka represents humility. When we touch the feet of the elders or the Guru, or when we worship the Padukas, we bow down the highest part of our body (head) towards the lowest part (feet). The head is the symbol of ego and so, by worshipping the Padukas, we surrender. When a person becomes humble the person becomes very open, is ready to receive knowledge, does not have pre-conceived notions, is not arrogant about money, power, pleasure, body, beauty, fame; none of these. Such a person comes to know the Truth, is ready to do what it takes to know the Truth. In this way, the Padukas show the goal as well as the path, which is through humility.
There was once a king who wanted to know the Truth. He went to his Master and said “Can you please guide me to the Truth?” The Master, who lived on the outskirts of the kingdom, said “You have to live here, and since I don’t have accommodation in my cottage, you will have to live in the pigsty outside.”
The king said “Pigsty? Not possible. I can’t stay there.” He went back. He ruled the kingdom for a few more years. However, he felt very uncomfortable and disillusioned that there was no real happiness in the world and went back to the Master. The Master said, “I had told you that you will have to stay in the pigsty. If you are ready then we can start right this moment.” The king said, “I really want to know the Truth but that is a little too much. If you permit me, I will build one more cottage next to yours and I will stay there” The master replied “It is not possible.” So, again the king went back and ruled for another few years. The third time when he came, he didn’t go to the Master. He went straight to the pigsty. The Master went there and said; “Now you are ready. Come, stay with me. The idea was not that you had to stay there, but whether you were willing to do what it takes to know the Truth.”
When we worship the Padukas everyday, we surrender the ego. Every time we say Namaha, Namaha, Namaha with each name of the Satguru, we surrender because namaha means na mama or not mine.
Poojya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda was personification of Humility.  Once he asked his hosts in Hyderabad, “how was the talk?”  The hosts were surprised and wondered – What did Poojya Gurudev mean by that question.  They said it was very good talk.  “Tapovan Swami Spoke Completely.”  He always said that the entire work of Chinmaya Mission is the glory of Sri Swami Tapovanam.  “I shall consider myself fulfilled if my life and work become my message of adoration and gratitude to my Teacher. Words can never gather Him in their embrace. Love alone can. Let us all adore Him and work for His fulfillment which is the goal of Chinmaya Mission”
Padukas & Gratitude
The third lesson taught by the Padukas is gratitude. When a puja is done, it is an expression of gratitude. We are grateful to the Lord that we have so many blessings in our lives. When gratitude comes into our life, our life becomes more fulfilled. Without gratitude, even if we have everything, life still looks empty and we keep complaining, cribbing and victimizing ourselves. With gratitude, even if we have nothing there is completeness.
It is commonly thought that prayer is only a means to ask for something.  A teacher asked a child “Did you pray today?” The child replied, “I didn’t want anything today so I didn’t pray.” Another teacher asked a student “ Do you pray before food?” The student replied “No, my mother is a very good cook!”
Although one may attain things through prayers, it is primarily an expression of gratitude. This is especially true when we do the Guru Paduka Puja. In Vivekachudamani, Shankaracharyaji says that three things are a sure sign that the Grace of the Lord is with us:
1.     Human birth – Manushyatvam
2.     A burning desire to know the Truth – Mumukshutvam.
3.     The Refuge under a Wise One – Maha-Purusha Samshrayaha
The very fact that a Satguru has come into our lives is a sign of the Grace of the Lord in our lives, as is the fact that we are able to study, understand and share that knowledge with others. When we do the puja we express that gratitude.
It is the Uncaused and Infinite Compassion of the Satgurus, which makes them leave the quiet moments of Nirvikalpa Samadhi, a life of seclusion and solitude and come down to live amidst us and guide us to the Truth patiently.  No matter what we do for such masters it is always less because everyone in the world makes a finite into a better finite entity.  Eg. A poor man gets money, sick one becomes healthy, ignorant gets knowledge etc.  But their sense of finitude does not go.  It is only the Satguru who transforms the finite into Infinite through the initiation into Self-Knowledge.  What can we offer such a master  who ends the hunger of many lives and saves us from the cycle of birth and death?  Gratitude  and service born out of it, is the least that we can offer.
 In the Kathopanishad and the Geeta, it is said Ascharyavad pashyati kaschidenam – it is a wonder if somebody comes to know this Truth. Self-Knowledge and everything associated with it – the student, the teacher, the teaching, the methodology, the consistent seeking & Self-Discovery, sharing the knowledge; each aspect is a wonder. So, to express that gratitude, a puja is done to say, “We are blessed with this Self knowledge which is a rare and divine blessing.” Very few people have that blessing. It is not that others do not deserve it, but the time has not yet come for them to absorb that in their life. In Vedanta it is said that their punya karma has to fructify, and then this happens.
Whenever a child or anyone played the role of Swami Tapovanam, Adi Shankara or Sri Krishna, Poojya Gurudev would touch their feet because they are instrumental in invoking the bhaav of surrender in Poojya Gurudev and so he would express his Gratitude.
When asked to describe His Guru Swami Tapovanam, Poojya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda would become quiet most of the times.  Once he said – ‘In whom I became Silent.”
On another occasion He said –“ Chinmaya’s work is dedicated to the Shruties(Scriptures) that told me what the Reality is, To Swami Tapovanji Maharaj of Uttarkashi who guided me to the end and pushed me into the Beyond,
And to Sat Gurudev Swami Sivananda Maharaj of Rishikesh who showed me in his life how to live and act in God as God!”
Padukas & Hard Hittings
Fourth, the Padukas represent the hard hittings of the master. The world pampers our individuality and encourages us to think more and more about this individuality. It is only at the feet of the master that we realize, “I am not this.” All the pride just goes away. The master delivers this message with love and understanding, but it also hits hard.  A saint said it very well:
Satguru mera suramaa, kare shabd ki chot.
Maare gola prem kaa, hare bharam ki khot.
My Satguru is an expert in hitting (the ego) with words.  He does it with love and destroys delusion.
As Shankaracharyaji says in Bhaja Govindam, to the old man, in his last few moments when he is still mugging up rules of grammar – Bhaja Govindam, Bhaja Govindam, Govindam Bhaja Mudha Mate– Oh deluded fool! Even when the master calls him a deluded fool, it is out of compassion and not to insult or to belittle the student. It is to actually shake him and wake him up from the slumber, through words. The basis is love.  Poojya Gurudev used to do that to lots of people.
There is a quote: “The teacher does not look at our ability or inability, he wants our availability.” If available, even the dullest student realizes the Absolute Truth and if somebody is not available, even though the person maybe very bright, nothing happens.
When a Vedanta course was completed  and the brahmacharis were posted in the field, Poojya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda would say “In the field, one is always surprised.” Because the brightest student sometimes would turn out to be an absolute miserable failure and the dullest student would shine. This happened only because the student was available and the bright one was still caught up in the ego. In Vedanta there is a lot of knowledge that we have and lot of people think that Vedanta is only intellectual, dry, subtle and boring. We often think that Vedanta is separate from bhakti. Actually, Bhakti is the most important component of Vedanta. If there is no Guru Bhakti, no transformation can happen through Vedanta. Adi Shankaracharya ji would say, it is “like a donkey carrying golden bricks.” All the informative knowledge is like the golden bricks. It will only add more weight instead of reducing the ego. So the fourth point is that it is the symbol of the hard hitting of the master and one’s readiness to accept it.
Padukas – Protection, Destruction, Realisation
Last one is the etymological meaning of the word Paduka. ‘Pa’ means to protect. The grace of the Guru always protects the disciple, whether the disciple knows and acknowledges it or not. The moment one comes under the umbrella of a Satguru, of a Master who has known the Truth, the grace of that Master always protects. It is not that the grace doesn’t protect other people. Poojya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda said that grace is like the sunlight. Sunlight is always available. But when I surrender, I open the window and allow the light to come in. Others keep their windows closed and complain that it is dark.  In this way the Grace of the Master always protects. For a spiritual student, Grace is very important because there are lots of weaknesses that we have, which we cannot overcome by our effort. We may try very hard – anger, lust, jealousy, passion, insecurity, the very sense of identification with the body – all these are very difficult to overcome. Merely by self-effort it is not possible. Grace is necessary to overcome these. The more the student invokes the Grace, the more that Grace protects the student. Not just the student, but also his family, the people around, the whole environment gets purified. In Vibheeshana Geeta (part of the Tulsi Ramayana), there is a description about Vibheeshana getting very anxious that Bhagawan is standing without any chariot, any armor, without any proper weapons; only has a few arrows, bare-chested and stands barefooted on the ground. Ravana has a huge chariot and missiles, an armor, sword and shield, etc. Vibheeshana goes to the Lord to say, “Ravana Rathi, Birathi Raghubeera” – Ravana is standing with such a huge chariot and you have no chariot; how will you fight this Ravana? Bhagawan says, “ I have a chariot which is invisible; courage and fortitude are the wheels of this chariot. Satya and Shila are the flags of the chariot.” In this way He describes the whole chariot and says, “what is the armor that I have?” – Kavacha Abhed Vipra Guru Puja – the impenetrable armor is the worship of the wise person and the Satguru.
There are lots of arrows that the world will shoot at us. It may be temptations, sense objects, negative vibrations etc. It is very easy for the mind to get disturbed. How do I protect myself? Every time I remember my Guru, I can protect myself. I need to ask one simple question: “When I do this action, can I look at my Guru in the eyes? Will I be ashamed of myself if I do this and go in front of my Guru?” If the answer is yes, one has to stop. When one remembers the Guru at such a time, one gets the strength to ward off temptation. Individually if I fight against it, the mind is so weak and fickle that it will fall. But if I remember that I have surrendered to the Guru, with His Grace, I can stop.
Pa means Paati, to protect. It is the grace of the Guru that protects.  Not only do the Padukas protect, but the Guru-Padukas promise that they will establish the seeker in the Kingdom of Dispassion and Detachment.
Poojya Gurudev said about Tapovanji Maharaj to the seekers –“Keep Him in your heart and let him purify you. His Grace is sure and unfailing.”
Du means Dunoti, it burns away. When the worship of the Padukas is done regularly in my sadhana, it helps to burn away my negative tendencies slowly and steadily because the devotion that grows in one’s heart will burn away all the negatives and limitations.  In the fire of Self-Knowledge, all my ignorance is burnt away and karmas of many lives also get destroyed. Srimad Bhagavad Geeta says in the 4th Chapter – “The fire of knowledge burns away all one’s karmas, just as a small spark is enough to burn away huge stacks of hay.”
Kaa means Kaashate – to shine. A person shines in one’s own true glory when all the negativities are gone. The Self within reveals itself and one gets established in one’s true nature.  The Gurupaduka Stotram says that the padukas establish a person in the state of Samadhi – the Self.
Negativities are divided into three  –
1.     Mala (kama, krodha, lobha, moha, mad, matsarya) –anger, greed, lust, passion, delusion and intoxication,
2.     Vikshepa or Wanderings of the mind
3.     Avidya – Ignorance – not knowing the Self/Truth.
These three impurities, when burnt, a person shines in one’s own true glory.
Blessed are we that we were found by a Satguru like Poojya Gurudev Swami Chinmayananda and taken under His wings.  Many lives of Punya must have fructified for this to happen. We pray that may our devotion to His Lotus Feet ever increase in our hearts and lead us to the ‘Chinmaya’ within.
In summary, these are few aspects about Padukas and when we do the Paduka Puja we invoke all these.
1.     It is the goal, which we have to discover as humans.
2.     It is the means, that is, humility.
3.     Helps us to invoke and express Gratitude
4.     Hard hittings of the master to blast our ego.
5.     The word meaning – to protect, to burn and to shine.

Om Tat Sat Chinmayaarpanam Astu.

 

WORSHIP THE GURU

WORSHIP THE GURU
Swami Tejomayananda

Online Link: http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritual-blogs/masters/self-improvement/worship-the-guru

It is only in Hinduism that we revere the Guru. So great is the reverence that the place of the Guru is considered even higher than that of the Lord himself. This statement being so profound is difficult to accept and many atheists feel it is an exaggeration.

In the education field teachers impart the knowledge of various secular subjects and we respect them for it but do not revere them as our Guru. The scriptures pay such high accolades to the Guru that the uninitiated wonder whether the worship of the Guru is an exaggeration. In any stuti or praise, there is always an element of overstatement, but this does not hold good in the praise of the Lord, his devotees, a Mahatma and the Guru. Any tributes to them will always fall short of their true import. Would it be an exaggeration to say that the Sun’s light is like the light of countless glowworms? The light of these glowworms can never match the brilliance of the Sun.

In life all of us are seeking happiness. Yet why are we all suffering? Is it something we already have and don’t know about? Can it be gained by inference? To know our true nature, which is happiness, none of these means are valid. Only a Guru’s teaching can reveal to us what we are searching for – our true nature! Isn’t it strange that someone has to introduce us to ourselves? That is why, in Dasbodh Swami Ramdas says, “बहुता दिवसा भेटिले आपणासि आपण (After a long time I have met myself. Till now I had not known myself, nor met myself.)”

A man is called a jantu – a creature crawling here and there seeking momentary joys. The Guru in his infinite compassion teaches this jiva and makes him realize that he is the Infinite Brahman – Bliss Absolute! For a Guru who teaches this Brahma Vidya, no amount of namaskars can ever be enough. To repay the debt we owe the Guru is a foolish attempt, because we can never be free from it!

Let us examine the word Guru and arrive at its connotations. The teachers who teach us secular subjects, or the priests (purohits) who perform samaskars like Upanayanam are also gurus. In the tradition of the path of devotion (upasana marg), the guru gives mantra deeksha to the seeker . But the highest position is that of a Sadguru, who imparts the knowledge of the Supreme, to the jiva who is away from the Lord. In Dasbodh Swami Ramdas defines the Guru as the one who unites the jiva with Shiva. The jiva now becomes the Shiva (auspicious) otherwise, as Adi Sankaracharya says, he is only a corpse (shava).

How can we know the Self? The Upanisads say that the Atman can neither be realized by giving or listening to lectures (pravachan), nor by memorizing prayers in praise of God (stotras). ‘He whom’ ‘this’ chooses, that man knows (the Atman). Who is this ‘he whom’ and what is ‘this’? Dualists (Dwaitins) say that ‘that seeker whom the Lord chooses, that seeker knows’. Adi Sankara says, ‘to that sadhaka, who chooses the Atman alone, the Atman reveals itself.’

Any seeker wanting either worldly objects or liberation must worship a Man of Realization, for only the disciple, whom the Guru chooses, knows the Atman. So the seeker prostrates to the Guru, who bestows both worldly prosperity and spiritual freedom – भुक्ति मुक्ति प्रदाता च तस्मै श्री गुरवे नमः|

The Lord, the Guru and the disciple are all the one Reality manifesting in different forms – ईश्वरो गुरुरात्मेति मूर्तिभेद विभागिने|.

Whether we say the Lord, the Guru or the seeker chooses is of no consequence. The significant word here is ‘chooses’. We have to choose like Nachiketas – ‘That’ to the exclusion of everything else.

To sum up, we seem to be suffering because of the ignorance of the true Self. This ignorance cannot be removed only through self-effort. The one who introduces me to myself is the Sadguru and any amount in praise of my Sadguru can never be sufficient. A devotee has even said, ‘I don’t consider the Lord as great. To me the Guru is greater’. This is not to belittle the greatness of the Lord, but to stress the importance of the Guru who indicates the path of the Lord by protecting us from the five looters of samsara – our five sense organs. All that we have to do is surrender to the Guru and pray. His grace is bestowed on the devotee who is completely dependent upon the lotus feet of the Guru – गुरु चरणाम्बुज निर्भर भक्तः|

On Guru Purnima we prostrate to the entire Guru Parampara from AdiSadashiv to our own Guru. This day is also known as Vyasa Purnima, dedicated to Veda Vyasa, the propounder of the Vaidic Dharma. Bhagavan Veda Vyasa is a karaka Purusha. He compiled the Vedas, Itihasaas and wrote the Puranas. Without him there would have been no scriptures and these were elaborated and commented upon by Bhagavan Sri Sankara. To this great Guru Parampara we offer our prostrations.

Chinmaya Mission Delhi: Yajna by Swamini Vimalananda

The July month’s yagna at Chinmaya Mission Delhi was conducted by Swamini Vimalananda, yet another brilliant disciple of Swami Chinmayananda. She is a member of the Educational Cell of the Central Chinmaya Mission Trust and Director of the Chinmaya Vision Programme. She is also in charge of Chinmaya Mission Coimbatore.

The yagna proceedings began in the traditional way and Swamini was received with Purna Kumbh and Arti. She was then accompanied to the stage by Swami Nikhilananda Saraswati. Our special guest Shri Anand Mohan, Land and Development Officer, Ministry of Urban Development also joined them on stage. The mood for the yagna was set by the perfect rendition of Ganapati Vandana by Gaurav Mitra. After thanking Gaurav the President Mrs Parveen Bahl welcomed Swamini Vimalanada to Delhi and requested Neelu Dauletsingh to accompany Swaminiji, Swamiji and Mr. Mohan to light the lamp which symbolises removing the darkness of ignorance with the light of knowledge. She then went on to Introduce Swamini Vimalanda to the gathering. The guests and Swamiji were honoured with floral garlands. Swaminiji then proceeded to the Vyaspeeth to begin the discourses.
She started by throwing questions to the listeners like are you a Hindu by birth belief or by practice. What are Hindu beliefs? This had the gathering participating with enthusiasm. Before explaining about Dhrama and how it is so often misunderstood as religion, Swaminiji first explained what a Sampradaya is and the four main characteristics that go to make a Sampradaya.
The question which had everybody eagerly listening in was the wrong belief about Hindus having many Gods. Time and again she stressed that God is One forms are many.
The discourses continue every evening 6.30 to 8pm till 12th July. All are welcome to attend.’

Chinmaya Jyothi Yatra at Chinmaya Vidyalaya Pallavur

Chinmaya Sandhesha Vahini Jyothi Yatra reached our vidyalaya on 30th June 2015 by 12:30pm and was received with Crackers, Panchavadhyam by renowned Pallavur Sreedhara Marar and Team, 100 boys with Poornakumbaham, Thalapoli by 100 Girls followed by the studednts of Classes LKG to VI wearing traditional dress. Purushasuktham was played in the background till chinmaya Jyothi, Padhukam and Vastram were placed in Tapovana hall where students of classes VII to XII, mission members, parents and members of alumni were seated.

“Om Chinmaya Sadhguravae Namaha” was chanted 7 times.Our Coordinators offrerd Salutations to our Pujya Gurudev by chanting the 11 namahas from Chinmaya Ashtotharam. Our Principal, Mr. Jayan Kambrath welcomed the gathering.  Br. Mukundha Chaitanya spoke about Chinmaya Sandhesha Vahini, the greeting card where Gurudev’s  voice was recorded , the on Ganga and the importance of Padukha Pooja. Padukha Pooja was performed by Swami Jithathmananda while students chanted the chinmaya ashtotharam and offered manasa pooja. Swami Jithathmananda addressed the audience following which the 15th Chapter of Bhagavad Gita was chanted by our students.  After Chinmaya Aarathi, the representatives of classes I to XII offered gurudakshina Classwise.

After the lunch, students of classes VI to VII visited the Yagnatorium and had a wonderful experience. It is a 3D planetarium specially made to spread awareness of God. By watching this show, children’s could understand that they worship the different forms of God to possess all the good qualities they represent.

Students from Class I to XII visited the Vahini Class wise. Students from classes IX to XII were made into 3 Groups and each group was addressed by Swami Jithathmananda and two CHYK members.

The programme came to an end by 4:15 pm with the chanting of Shanthi Mantra and National Anthem. We are indeed blessed to receive our Pujya Gurudev on this particular day because we were celebrating our Pujya guruji’s Birthday also on the same day.

Chinmaya Sandesha Vahini at ChinmayaSarveshvara,Thamaraipakkam

Thamaraipakkam truly celebrated the arrival of Gurudev with great pomp and joy. The CHYKS escorted Gurudev in a motorbike rally for about 20 kms up to the Koot road junction. Gurudev was taken from the junction till the temple (fondly known as ‘Sivan Kovil’) in a ‘pallaku’ (palakhi / palanquin). It was as though every house in the little town was welcoming one of their dear family members home after a long time. Such is the love and connect of the people to the ashram that has been serving them and enriching their lives for more than 25 years through a free school, a free medical centre, a Shiva temple, CORD and much more. One old amma came and gave a gift wrapped box to Priya ji saying, ‘This is a ‘vilakku’ (lamp) for my Gurudev.’

The students of Harihara Vidyalaya enthralled and touched the hearts of all present by showcasing 6 different types of performances such as Silambattam, Puliyattam( dressed as tiger), Mayilattam(dressed as peacock), Oyilattam, karagattam(balancing water pots on their heads)and kolattam(with sticks). A few children dressed up as different National leaders, Gods and Goddesses posed all through the procession. About 50 children from Vivekananda Vidyalaya performed a march-past with orchestra.  One could see people from all age groups participate; children, women, youth, adults, elderly, CHYK’s, YuvaVeers… everyone was busy doing something or the other to make sure Gurudev gets the grandest reception that Thamaraipakkam has seen. The entire temple pathway was decorated with colorful rangolis and thoranam. Firecrackers resounded in the sky.

From the gates of the Chinmaya Sarveshvara, His Escorts escorted Him to the temple and then to the auditorium where paduka puja was performed. More than one thousand people took part in this grand procession and about 300 participated in the Guru paduka puja. After the puja the village folks entered CSV with great devotion to have Gurudev’s darshan. Prior to the procession and puja, a quiz was conducted based on Gurdev’s life and work and prizes were distributed. About 75 participated in the quiz.

The next day, 13th June, CSV visited 2 schools R.M Jain in Thiruvallur and Vivekananda Vidyalaya in Sri perumbatur educating about 2000 children and 250 teachers on Gurudev’s life and services. Again the students of Harihara Vidyalaya performed a 40 minute show on Gurudev’s life in Sriperumbatur. Over 1000 people watched and enjoyed the inspiring performance.

Understanding Marriage Retreat at Chinmaya Somnath in Chantilly, VA

UNDERSTANDING MARRIAGE: THE VEDANTIC PERSPECTIVE

By: Deepika Reddy Allana

“If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.” This is a quote from Vivekji at the 2nd annual Understanding Marriage Retreat held at Chinmaya Somnath in Chantilly, VA over Memorial Day weekend, 2015. A version of this sentiment must have gone through each of the 40 or so attendees’ minds as they made the decision to attend the retreat. This quote is universal, and applicable to anyone, and in any context. The retreat’s theme, “The Joy of Giving,” also included topics spanning universal subject matter, which promised to serve as enriching lessons for navigating any human relationships, not just through marriage.

Married couples and singles alike gathered together for their own deeply personal reasons—perhaps taking their marriage to the next level by learning tools to help overcome recent conflicts, finding
inspiration to strengthen their existing relationship, taking advantage of a rare opportunity for a meaningful weekend away, or maybe investing in self-development to offer their best self to a future partner. The learning was multi-dimensional with spiritual discourses, communication exercises, and small group discussion on insightful questions. The weekend’s intensive learning was interwoven with opportunities for relaxation through a ballroom dance lesson, a picnic lunch “date,” a playful game of soccer and entertaining bhajans. Participants were blessed to be in the presence of:
Swamiji Dheerananda (by videoconference), Vilasiniji, Vivekji, Priyaji and Rahulji. While the participants were enjoying the retreat, many of their children were having fun in another room, enjoying games and activities organized by dedicated sevaks.

Vivekji, brought alive the Vedantic interpretation of the meaning of marriage with his trademark, lucid discourses carefully crafted to resonate with the challenges encountered in the modern
day. He interweaved examples from the sacred texts, pop culture and his own life to make his message accessible, entertaining and informative- the perfect trifecta. Vivekji helped participants to understand that marriage has a deep purpose- to exhaust vasanas (conditionings from the past). Marriage is training; an opportunity to develop virtues. How does one develop such virtues? By giving, giving, giving, “more than what we take.” “It is not that the grass is always greener on the other side, the grass is greener where we water it.” By bringing these concepts into laser focus, one is inspired to dig deeper and find the motivation to water the grass every day!

Vilasiniji had a warm and inviting manner that enveloped the room as she invoked both her Vedantic scholar side and her counselor side to skillfully pair the best of Vedanta marriage philosophy
and mainstream best practices for optimizing communication in relationships. Many participants reported back as having forged into new territory with their spouses regarding style and depth of
communication. The general sentiment was that these exercises provided a worthwhile and golden opportunity for one to venture beyond one’s comfort zone.

To quote Gurudev, “What we have is God’s gift to us. What we do with what we have is our gift back to God.” Thank you to the teachers, volunteer organizers and participants, who gave their time, expended their effort and shared some of themselves, for the benefit of all.